By Ali Carrington, Co-Founder of the School for Professional Dog Listeners
When Kenny, a 10-year-old boxer, came into my life, I had no idea how transformative his presence would be. Like many of us in the rescue world, I assumed I was bringing him into my life to help him, but as it turns out, Kenny had lessons for me too.
Finding a troubled dog
I first saw Kenny on a rescue website. He was emaciated, grey-muzzled, and covered in tumours. His previous families had returned him to the shelter multiple times. Despite the shock of his condition, I knew we couldn’t leave him there. My husband and I wanted to give him comfort and warmth, even if only for a short while.
Meeting Kenny for the first time was heart-wrenching. He was frail and clearly stressed, but he approached my first dog, Chilli, and quickly assessed. She was curious, he was indifferent. It was a small moment, but it spoke volumes about his calm nature once he felt safe. Over the next few years, Kenny thrived in ways I hadn’t imagined.
Kenny arrived with a few challenges. He had severe anxiety, particularly separation anxiety, was urinary incontinent, and had increasing deafness due to chronic ear infections. Yet, these hurdles didn’t prevent connection. With dog listening, verbal commands were unnecessary. Through eye contact, subtle gestures, and gentle movements, Kenny learned to trust and respond.
Trying too hard
Teaching Kenny to manage his separation anxiety became one of my greatest learning moments. Initially, I tried too hard, using techniques I knew would work with other dogs. Kenny quickly showed me that overdoing it increased his stress. I had to step back, slow down, and allow him to find his calm at his own pace.
Living with Kenny also changed my perspective on pressure and life pace. He was happiest in quiet, stable environments, away from the chaos of busy city life. Supporting his wellbeing meant rearranging my own life, slowing down, and prioritising calm over constant activity. The impact on me was profound. By saying yes to what he needed, I learned to say yes to peace for myself.
Kenny as teacher
Kenny reminded me that dogs teach us as much as we teach them. Through his example, I discovered that kindness, patience, and observation are more powerful than trying to control outcomes. His life was a gentle nudge towards mindfulness and understanding—not just for dogs, but for ourselves.
Kenny taught me that every dog has lessons to offer, often in ways we least expect. By observing, listening, and responding thoughtfully, we create stronger, more compassionate connections with our dogs and with ourselves.
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